-Completion?-

It breaks my heart when I see girls who think that finding that "perfect" someone will make their lives what they want it to be. I don't know where as women we got the idea that we needed a man to complete our lives? Maybe because back in the day men took care of the household and women stayed home? I'm all for finding your best friend but why rush it?

To be the best spouse for your mate you need to know who you are and what purpose you have. Being in a relationship won't fix your problems with feeling worthless, unimportant, lacking self-confidence, or having no self esteem. You first need to figure out why you have these issues. Is it because your family isn't loving or accepting? Is it because you don't think you're intelligent or pretty? Whatever the reason you have to fix it, not your mate.

I believe your twenties are a fantastic time to find out who you are and what you want in life. Go to school, learn new things. Try different jobs and find out what you like and don't like. Date different people to learn what you want in your spouse. Travel and meet new people. Try different foods. Have different friends with different personalities. When you come into a relationship as an individual with different ideas and different life experiences, you bring something to the relationship. I wouldn't want someone who was only interested in what I liked or only did the things I did. How boring. Yes, you do want to relate but not in every aspect.

Don't get tied down, have adventures. You only live your 20's once. How do you expect someone to love you IF you don't love yourself? You have your whole life to be married and have children. Don't rush to grow up so fast.